Letter To My Younger Self : Boundaries

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Dear 15-year-old me,

I wish you had known this earlier, but better late than never. After all, you were a teenager who knew how to be the best version of yourself. I am writing this to let you know that we have learned to set boundaries, boundaries for people, things, our environment, and even for society. I am in my late twenties and still not forced into marriage, not because the people around me did not want it, but because I chose not to.

You know, you had been there for as many people as you could help or support, even after feeling that everyone was only taking you for granted. But as you grow up, you will understand how it feels to be alone when it is much needed, and that will teach you life, a life where you enjoy your own company. You know, I celebrated our last birthday alone, where “a day out” did not mean being with twenty others, but just me and the strangers around, existing in the same environment.

Most of the time, you gave up because you thought it was good for them, be it family, friends, or even strangers. But now I am happy to write this and tell you that boundaries are the new comfort that I am carrying, and that is because you had to suffer a lot for that. I am sorry that you had to go through the tantrums of a lot of people. I know how it feels to handle all the suffering because I too sometimes get into the same situation, and then I realise it is going in the wrong direction. My little one, you guide me in those times, and instead of getting into the mess, I go into the shell, the shell where I can be myself, the outgrown version of me who knows how to stay content and not crib or throw tantrums for everything.

Thank you so much for being there and surviving all those toxic friendships and relationships where they only instructed you to do this or that and asked you to choose people wisely. Little did you know they were not the wise choice as well. I hope they read this letter and realise they used your knidness as well when you were only trying to be nice. If they face you today, you cannot even imagine what I will do. 😏

Yours truly,
The person you became

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