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Letter To My Younger Self : Trying Too Hard

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  You can read all A To Z Blogs  here    Dear naive kid, I hope you find the tender care you need to heal your soul after trying so hard to make people love you and molding yourself to please them. You know, I feel a little angry as I write this letter because I feel embarrassed for being that person who had to try so hard just to please people, just to make them stay in my life, even when they did not matter enough. They were only there to take advantage of my innocence and get their work done. It was your life back then, but now that I have become enough for myself, I have stopped pleasing people and have become more vocal about my thoughts and opinions. It sometimes lands me in trouble, but that trouble is worth the chance to become more confident. It is not ego, it is a way to protect myself from outside expectations. I believe that once you start choosing yourself and stop looking for outside validation, life becomes easier and the journey gets smoother. Now...
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Letter To My Younger Self : Self-Worth

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  You can read all A To Z Blogs  here    Dear younger me, I hope you are feeling proud of how far you have come in your journey. Today, I want to share how you have grown in understanding your self-worth. You know, it was never easy to just breathe freely when there were so many people around you ready to validate your actions and achievements. Even when you did not ask, people would step in to take credit for your success or tell you how things could have been done better, often diminishing your efforts in both good and difficult times. Over the years, I have learned that self-worth is not measured by other people’s validation. Let me tell you when this truly became clear to me. One night, I called a friend to share that I had received an opportunity to participate in my first open mic. The conversation took an unexpected turn, and I ended the call feeling hurt and regretting that I had shared my happiness. That was the last time I allowed someone to take away my jo...
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Letter To My Younger Self : Rejection

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  You can read all A To Z Blogs  here    Dear younger me, I hope you are doing well and having the time of your life. There are both failures and successes in life, and without them, the journey would feel monotonous. It took me years to understand this and to handle failures gracefully, just as I do with success. You know, rejection has always been difficult for you. You would do anything to seek validation for whatever you did. No one ever told you that it is okay to fail. You were that trophy child who was expected to work hard and win first prize in everything. Whenever you did not achieve excellence, you would either blame yourself or the system. But you were just a child. A mature one, yes, but still a child. Some things were too heavy to handle because your mind was being shaped by adults around you. I do not feel pity for that version of you. Instead, I feel grateful that it took us time to understand that rejection is not failure, but an opportunity to grow,...
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Letter To My Younger Self : Quiet Battles

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  You can read all A To Z Blogs  here    Dear younger me, I hope you are being heard now. It feels saddening that elders think children don’t have any troubles, that they only have school and projects. But how do we make them understand that even though we go through so much while trying to keep up with everything around us? One thing that still makes me feel a little heavy is that many elders never truly see that their children can have problems, anxiety, and stress too. For them, suffering belongs only to adults. Even when you become a parent someday, you may still be treated like a child who is overreacting, as if taking care of a family is just a piece of cake. So instead of fighting or constantly trying to explain my battles, I have learned to handle them on my own. Someone has to, right? There have been many moments when I was seen as overreacting, even when I was quietly dealing with so much inside. You only begin to understand life differently when you start ...
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Letter To My Younger Self : Patience

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  You can read all A To Z Blogs  here    Dear always rushing, I hope you are enjoying this series of letters that I have curated for you. I will be honest, I started doing it not just for you, but to heal myself and to get to know myself better, as life was feeling heavy and I felt as if I was losing myself. You know what one of the best virtues is? Before you make wild guesses, let me tell you, it is patience. This letter is about patience, which I remember you had very little of. Every time you wanted permission, it had to be quick and easy. But you forgot that parents had already lived a life as children, and they knew how to negotiate or refuse your demands without hurting you. Honestly, over the years, patience has become my best friend. No matter how delayed things get, I know that what is meant for me will come to me, and that is how patience is growing stronger in me with every opportunity. Sometimes, it is best to accept delays instead of rushing, because yo...
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Letter To My Younger Self : Overgiving

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  You can read all A To Z Blogs  here    Dear younger me, I am writing this letter to tell you that you have always been a kind soul, a child who never thought twice before giving to someone, even when it meant you would be left with nothing. You know, while growing up, what I learned is one of the best lessons of life. Offer something to someone only when you have enough left for yourself, because you cannot give with empty hands. I remember how sometimes you felt sad when nothing was left with you, but you never acknowledged that it was your mistake. Instead of saying no, you continued to give, even when it was emptying your pockets. There was another thing I realized. You did not give only because you wanted to, you also believed that someday, when you would need help, those people would give back to you. But my dear younger self, it does not work like that. You may not always receive from the same people you have helped. It is the universe that decides where your...
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Letter To My Younger Self : No

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  You can read all A To Z Blogs  here    Dear younger me, I am writing this letter to tell you that we have learned one new sentence while growing up, and that is “No.” The one who always did what she was asked to do has changed now and understands how to prioritize tasks, and above all, herself. You know, I have seen you in situations where you felt reluctant to do something, but you could not refuse and ended up accepting it despite your hesitation. But now, it is not the same. I can use one powerful word to change things in my favor when I do not wish to do something, because it is necessary to set priorities for things, people, and tasks that come my way. It was not easy to become like this and embrace this change. After all, your image as a people pleaser made it harder for me. Sometimes I feel angry at you for being like that, but then I am reminded that you had your struggles, and maybe those shaped you that way. Now, instead of blaming you, I want to talk mor...
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