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Letter To My Younger Self : Quiet Battles

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  You can read all A To Z Blogs  here    Dear younger me, I hope you are being heard now. It feels saddening that elders think children don’t have any troubles, that they only have school and projects. But how do we make them understand that even though we go through so much while trying to keep up with everything around us? One thing that still makes me feel a little heavy is that many elders never truly see that their children can have problems, anxiety, and stress too. For them, suffering belongs only to adults. Even when you become a parent someday, you may still be treated like a child who is overreacting, as if taking care of a family is just a piece of cake. So instead of fighting or constantly trying to explain my battles, I have learned to handle them on my own. Someone has to, right? There have been many moments when I was seen as overreacting, even when I was quietly dealing with so much inside. You only begin to understand life differently when you start ...
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Letter To My Younger Self : Patience

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  You can read all A To Z Blogs  here    Dear always rushing, I hope you are enjoying this series of letters that I have curated for you. I will be honest, I started doing it not just for you, but to heal myself and to get to know myself better, as life was feeling heavy and I felt as if I was losing myself. You know what one of the best virtues is? Before you make wild guesses, let me tell you, it is patience. This letter is about patience, which I remember you had very little of. Every time you wanted permission, it had to be quick and easy. But you forgot that parents had already lived a life as children, and they knew how to negotiate or refuse your demands without hurting you. Honestly, over the years, patience has become my best friend. No matter how delayed things get, I know that what is meant for me will come to me, and that is how patience is growing stronger in me with every opportunity. Sometimes, it is best to accept delays instead of rushing, because yo...
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Letter To My Younger Self : Overgiving

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  You can read all A To Z Blogs  here    Dear younger me, I am writing this letter to tell you that you have always been a kind soul, a child who never thought twice before giving to someone, even when it meant you would be left with nothing. You know, while growing up, what I learned is one of the best lessons of life. Offer something to someone only when you have enough left for yourself, because you cannot give with empty hands. I remember how sometimes you felt sad when nothing was left with you, but you never acknowledged that it was your mistake. Instead of saying no, you continued to give, even when it was emptying your pockets. There was another thing I realized. You did not give only because you wanted to, you also believed that someday, when you would need help, those people would give back to you. But my dear younger self, it does not work like that. You may not always receive from the same people you have helped. It is the universe that decides where your...
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Letter To My Younger Self : No

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  You can read all A To Z Blogs  here    Dear younger me, I am writing this letter to tell you that we have learned one new sentence while growing up, and that is “No.” The one who always did what she was asked to do has changed now and understands how to prioritize tasks, and above all, herself. You know, I have seen you in situations where you felt reluctant to do something, but you could not refuse and ended up accepting it despite your hesitation. But now, it is not the same. I can use one powerful word to change things in my favor when I do not wish to do something, because it is necessary to set priorities for things, people, and tasks that come my way. It was not easy to become like this and embrace this change. After all, your image as a people pleaser made it harder for me. Sometimes I feel angry at you for being like that, but then I am reminded that you had your struggles, and maybe those shaped you that way. Now, instead of blaming you, I want to talk mor...
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Letter To My Younger Self : Mistakes

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  You can read all A To Z Blogs  here    Dear little me, I hope you are doing well. Mistakes have always been your constant teacher, and because of them, you were able to survive the worst. Being a girl is not easy when you already know there will be times when you will face eve-teasing, assault, manipulation, and so much more. If you ask around, every woman will admit that she has faced something like this at some point in her life. You know, even today I do not like it when people apologize for their mistakes and then repeat them again and again. I feel that saying sorry becomes a way for them to feel their mistake is done and dusted, and that they are free to repeat it instead of learning from it. But one thing that is important is to take responsibility for your mistakes and learn from them. Also, if you face mistreatment, learn from that as well, because someone has to learn from the mistake, whether it is yours or someone else’s, especially if it impacts your l...
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Letter To My Younger Self : Love

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  You can read all A To Z Blogs  here    Dear younger me, I hope you are doing well and have learned to love yourself, because that is the best thing I have learned over all these years. You used to think you were not the favorite child in the family and that you were only there to shine and rise through all the hard work you did. But I realize now that you were wrong. It was not love from others that was the problem, it was loving yourself that was the problem. You were looking for validation, not love from others. Once you start loving yourself, things change. It does not matter who was, is, or will be there with you. You know, love is crucial, but it is not everything. There are many things that you need, and all of them start with you. When it comes to respect, the first thing to do is to respect yourself. Similarly, it is with love, care, kindness, and everything else. Everything should start with you. Once you learn this, life becomes more beautiful. Over the y...
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Letter To My Younger Self : Keeping Quiet

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  You can read all A To Z Blogs  here    Dear louder version of me, I hope you are as loud as you used to be, but you will be surprised to know that I have learned to stay quiet and silent whenever it feels like my words won’t matter, so why waste them where it is not necessary. You know, growing up, I learned that anger steals moments of calm and happiness and only offers sadness, high blood pressure, and sometimes even breathlessness. As we see in our lives, sorrows are unwanted, yet they often outnumber joys because there are multiple ways to create sorrow, just like the one I mentioned, anger. I have an answer in case you ever ask, “What if people annoy me?” You can control your actions, not other people’s, so it is better to choose sanity instead of losing your mind. I do get angry at times, but when I pause and think, “Why should I bother?” my mind clears, and I move on. I feel that being aware of myself is the best thing that has happened to me. Sometimes I cu...
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